Dale, I like and need the personal touch of a group that has some depth of character that presents the human aspect of the equation. It is one thing that keeps me interested and involved, .... and intrigued. We are all different , with a common denominator of not feeling disgraced by asking for help in things we might need assistance. At the same time, it is nice to actually be able to offer some pointers when we have some of that knowledge behind us. It makes me feel good to be able to help someone else and it makes me feel good that someone will actually take the time to offer me advice when I ask.
I live a sheltered and homebound life and I love some of the *background* that comes with the territory in reading the posts. I like hearing about the weather in the West as it differs from my southern exposure. I like the tiny snippets about other's lives, their hobbies, their pets,.. their families, their backgrounds.
The holidays are an emotional time of year for many people and it is okay to allow a little seepage of those emotions. Better to stay busy and have a few cyber links to defuse some of the *stuff* each of us has to live with; no harm, no intent, just a small extension of mood, ...so what?.
Dale, I am pleased to have a contact with someone who actually gives a damn about someone else.
The holidays are coming to an end and all of us will get back on track, and this little emotional banter will pass as new projects take over the conversations.
I'll be careful to put *banter* in the subject line that offer no solution regarding a question, and *New Topic* when I go off-tract to what is current. I'll personally make an effort to keep anyone from wasting their time on non-applicable reading.
carmen / Dawsonvill- Ga.
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On Dec 29, 2012, at 11:43 PM, Dale S wrote:
Perhaps it is again that time to pull in the reigns, but let me tell you a little story from my past. Years ago when I was a chief petty officer getting ready to depart on a 70 day submerged patrol and received one or more new men about whom I knew little or nothing, I did not have much time for getting acquainted and determining the deep rooted personalities of each individual. My quick fix was to invite each new man for a night out on the town at the Chief's Club so to speak as my personal guest and I was buying. We would engage in many aspects of conversation as the drinks kept coming and the evening wore on. Once the newest crew member was somewhat well lubricated his inhibitions would be diminished and I in turn would get a quick glance at the real underlying character of the individual. The system was relatively cheap and worked like a champ. I spent nearly 5 years with one young man who never changed, and you could not tell by looking that he had had more than one or two drinks, until the next morning and he couldn't remember. Cleete was in turn the most predictable and reliable man in my crew.
This is the same reason I like to sell a little rope now and then among the members of the group, because I quickly learn where the sore spots might be and find myself able to sort out those that are perhaps more endowed with bluster than with knowledge. Most people are far more likely to spout off when they know they will never have to look the other person in the eye nor meet them on the street corner. This is why I often re-read several times and wait several minutes before hitting the SEND button, and I still send more typo's than I should.
Dale in the Flatlands.
Hi Dale, I can appreciate creating a sense of community on the list by keeping the atmosphere and topics loosey goosey at times especially during this holiday season. However I do wonder after your politics bit and now this exchange below, that perhaps it's time to throttle things back a little bit and tighten the topic guidelines...at least for the time being. I'm always in favor of folks hitting the delete button (as I have a lot as of late...not because of lack of interest but because there has been a lot of casual discussions that I simply can't keep up with) before having an entire list change or conform to one person but I think right now the allotted rope to folks has become a slippery slope.
On Sat, Dec 29, 2012 at 8:31 AM, mountain953346
<mountain953346@yahoo.com> wrote:
Perhaps I understand all too well...the smile and subsequent
comments are offensive/sarcastic/
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Dale in the Flatlands.
carmen stuart
Brightwood Aviary
Dawsonville, Ga.
770 889-0353
